Illustration of a man in one-way love One-way love or known in Japanese as “kataomoi” is one of the quite popular themes in Japanese culture, both in literature, music, and film. This term refers to the feeling of love felt by someone towards another person who does not reciprocate the feeling. In this context, we will dig deeper into kataomoi, including its meaning, characteristics, and impact on the daily lives of Japanese people. Understanding Kataomoi Kataomoi consists of two Japanese words: “kata,” which means one, and “omoi,” which means feeling or love. So, literally, kataomoi can be translated as “one-way love.” It describes a situation where someone has strong feelings of love for another person, but the person they love does not feel the same way. This feeling is often accompanied by sadness, longing, and unrequited hope. In many cases, kataomoi can create deep and complex feelings. People who feel it are often stuck in uncertainty, thinking about how to convey their feelings or perhaps thinking about moving on without expressing them. It is a theme that is often explored in a variety of Japanese artworks, from anime and manga to novels and songs. Characteristics of Kataomoi Illustration of a man in love One of the main characteristics of […]
Japanese people looking at their phones (Image by freepik) In the digital era, messages coming into your phone are often an important aspect of your daily life. However, a phenomenon that may sound strange to many people is the Japanese habit of ignoring or not responding immediately to incoming messages. Many wonder why many Japanese people tend to leave their messages as unread. Let's explore some of the reasons behind this habit. Japanese people don't know how to respond First of all, it is important to understand the communication culture in Japan. Japanese culture highly values politeness and etiquette in communication. Often, there is social pressure to provide an appropriate and proper response. In this context, if someone receives a message and is unable to provide an adequate response, they may choose not to read it at all. This is a way to avoid a response that could be considered impolite or not good enough. By keeping the message as unread, they feel no obligation to provide an answer until they are ready. There are times when Japanese people don't know what to say or how to reply, so they take the time to compose a message. In addition, there are times when Japanese people are too naive to mark it as read because they are worried about […]
Two men talking (Image by Freepik) The term “senpai-kouhai” may be familiar to those of you who are familiar with Japanese culture, especially in the context of schools, clubs, companies, and even martial arts dojos. More than just a term for senior and junior, the senpai-kouhai relationship forms a unique, complex social system that plays an important role in everyday life in Japan. Understanding these dynamics is essential to understanding Japanese culture in depth. This concept is rooted in hierarchy and a deep respect for experience and knowledge. Senpai (先輩), meaning “the one who precedes,” refers to an individual who is more senior in a group, whether by seniority in age, tenure, or skill level. Kouhai (後輩), meaning “the one who follows behind,” is a junior who follows in the senpai’s footsteps. This relationship is built on mutual respect, guidance, and devotion. However, it is not a rigid and formal relationship like a superior and subordinate in a Western work context. The senpai-kouhai relationship has a more personal and organic feel, built through interaction and shared experiences. While there is a clear hierarchy, the relationship emphasizes the importance of supporting each other and growing together. Roles and Responsibilities of Senpai Senpai have significant responsibilities in guiding and supporting their kouhai. This is not just about giving instructions or directions, […]
Workers working (Image by Freepik) The concept of uchi soto (内と外) in Japanese culture is one of the important pillars that shape the understanding of social relations and interactions between people in the Land of Sakura. Literally, uchi means “inside” or “internal,” referring to the inner circle, a close and trusted group, while soto means “outside” or “external,” representing the outside world, strangers, or those outside the circle of trust. This concept is not just a geographical division, but a complex system that regulates behavior, expectations, and social norms in various situations. The difference between uchi and soto has a significant impact on various aspects of life in Japan, from how we communicate, interact, to decision-making. The closer someone is to us, the more we will relax the rules of formality and show more casual behavior. Conversely, when interacting with someone outside of uchi, we tend to be more formal, keep our distance, and strictly observe etiquette. Uchi Circle: Family, Close Friends, and Trusted Coworkers The uchi circle starts with the immediate family (parents, siblings) and expands to include extended family, close friends, and long-time, trusted coworkers. In this circle, communication tends to be more direct, informal, and emotional. We can more freely express our opinions, joke around, and even show […]
Japanese Men’s Appearance (Image by Freepik) Have you ever heard the terms “honne” and “tatemae”? If you are interested in Japanese culture, these two words must be familiar to you. The concepts of honne and tatemae are integral parts of Japanese social life, reflecting unique values and ethics. The concepts of honne (本音) and tatemae (建前) are two important pillars in understanding Japanese culture and social behavior. While the direct translation may sound simple – honne as “true feelings” and tatemae as “outward appearance” – these two concepts are much more complex and interrelated than simply comparing truth and pretense. Learning about honne and tatemae is key to understanding the nuances of social interaction in Japan and avoiding misunderstandings that can arise from cultural differences. What are Honne and Tatemae? Honne (本音): Honne refers to one’s true feelings or thoughts, the innermost voice of the heart. This is the private side of a person that is usually only revealed to those closest and most trusted. Honne, the core of one’s self, represents one’s most honest and authentic feelings, thoughts, and desires. It is the inner voice that may not always be expressed openly due to various social and cultural factors. Honne can encompass a wide range of emotions, from affection and happiness to anger, anxiety, […]
Man holding a cell phone (Image by Freepik) Have you ever sent a message to a Japanese friend or acquaintance, seen the “read” sign, but not received a response? This occurrence, which can be frustrating for some, actually reflects a number of cultural factors and social contexts in Japan that need to be understood. It’s not that they’re intentionally ignoring you; there’s often a more complex reason behind it than just indifference. Let’s explore some possible explanations: A Culture of Carefulness and Conflict Avoidance Japanese culture places a high value on harmony and avoiding conflict. Responding inappropriately or hastily to a message is considered rude and can disrupt interpersonal harmony. If someone is having trouble responding promptly and appropriately, they may choose to delay their response rather than give a short, incomplete, or otherwise unfriendly reply. They prefer to take the time to formulate an appropriate and polite response rather than give a response that comes across as rushed or thoughtless. Seeing the “read” sign with no response doesn’t mean your message is being ignored; it could mean they’re considering how to respond in a way that’s appropriate and contextual. Social Hierarchy and Politeness Illustration of a man using a smartphone In Japanese society, social hierarchy plays an important role in communication. The relationship between the sender and the receiver […]
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